Buying romantic gifts for her only gets more difficult as time passes. But that difficulty represents a reason to make the effort not only to find something but to find something that demonstrates real appreciation and sustained attraction.
Finding an unexpected gift that triggers a feeling adjacent to the initial thrill she got from the idea that you wanted her. What’s required is a little creativity and a little risk-taking (also, a semi-decent wrapping job). The articles below are, in essence, tribute. And that’s entirely the point. If you wouldn’t leave it as an offering at a large but tasteful shrine to your wife or partner’s best qualities, it’s just not romantic enough to make the cut.
A second chance to see the world together for the first time. Alain de Botton’s excellent book How To Think About Sex More is worthy reading for anyone struggling -- as your wife likely is -- with the fuzzy handcuffs of monogamy. But the title is a bit on the nose. Better to ramp up to that work with Small Pleasures, a slight tome from England’s reigning poet/philosopher of the domestic. What is long term love but the serial sharing of short term pleasures? What is more deserving of our attention?
A cuff for her wrist is a solid addition to her jewelry repertoire. This one is quietly beautiful. It's strong. It's elegant and refined. Like her. And of course, because it screws on at the end, you have to put it on her.
Let's refrain from any tired jokes about how she lights your fire. You know she does. But really. Is there anything more profound and more personal than sitting outside, in the dark, and sharing intimate thoughts and memories over a flickering flame in a beautifully textured hand cast stone bowl? Thanks to clean-burning gel fuel, it works both indoors and out.
Silk pajamas don't get more plush than those from Olivia van Halle, inspired by the ones worn by Coco Chanel. She'll have fun putting them on. As for taking them off...well, that's something you can do together. These have unexpected touches, like the eye print and contrast piping, as well as mother-of-pearl buttons.
Because staying together in can feel like the sweetest, most intimate gesture of all. This spacious and soft throw blanket is ideal for sipping wine in front of the fire. Cuddling up on the couch to watch whatever movie she wants. Or simply as the life-size version of a warm back massage.
Each of Chan Luu's wrap bracelets is handmade and inspired by nature. Each one is unique, just like the wearer. The brand, first founded out of a garage in Los Angeles, proves that with jewelry, simplicity and authenticity go a very long way.
Set the mood with this ceramic diffuser, which on its own looks like a design piece. But add 10 - 20 drops of the essential oil of your choice, such as the delicately floral ylang ylang, and you're in a totally different headspace. It works continuously for 3 hours.
Stripper lingerie is a hard no. But boy shorts this delicate? Yes. Just yes. Dainty without being too precious. Sexy without being obnoxious. These boy shorts are, dare we say, simply perfect.
Put the kids to bed, and take a bath together. There are bath salts you buy at CVS. And then there's this luxury blend, made up of Dead Sea salts and clay, coupled with essential oils of cedar atlas, neroli, geranium, calendula, Moroccan blue tansy, and bergamot. It's a gift for both of you.
A wearable hug that lasts and lasts. There’s no greater joy than being comfortable in one’s home and no better means of accomplishing this than slipping into a cashmere sweatsuit. This relatively simple offering from State checks all the boxes (◻soft, ◻attractive, ◻clingy in a good way). Once she puts it on, you’ll struggle to get her to take it off. But that’s how the game goes.
Flowers wilt and die. This exquisite set, however, lasts long beyond Valentine's Day. This dried bouquet is monochromatic in color, but speaks volumes. The stems don't need light or water to thrive, and they will look beautiful for months to come.
Boundaries are, paradoxically enough, the key to intimacy. There is such a thing as a practical romantic gesture. Research suggests that mothers in general and new mothers in particular often feel “touched out.” In essence, they overdose on non-sexual intimacy. The solution? Create some boundaries. Encourage some time alone. Give mom a means of escape. The sign is really just a commitment to ensuring that she has time alone, which will, in turn, lead to time together.
A gift fit for a cuddle queen. There’s nothing better than feeling warm, rich, and — if circumstance permits it — medieval. There’s a reason that fake fur blankets have been proliferating out the cold confines of the mid-century modern mafias minimalized mansionettes: Netflix and warm beats Netflix and chill any time. Want to make the blanket extra special for a mom? Dictate that it is hers and only hers. A little ownership can make anyone feel regal.
This dewy, sheer fragranced oil is more subtle than perfume, and gives her a glorious understated glow. There's no better feeling post-shower than spritzing on a delicate scent that also makes her skin soft and her hair shiny. This is that scent. It's a heady blend of jasmine, edelweiss flower, lychee, and sandalwood that's like a tropical vacation in a beautiful bottle.
A commitment to keeping that ring shiny. Left unpolished, even gold turns dull. All the more reason to invest time and energy in making sure that her ring (remember the gut punch looking at that receipt) is all shined up — as it should be. The key here is not to wrap the present. The present is you looking after the ring. It’s a metaphor. She’ll get it. Bonus: This thing cleans and sanitizes eyeglasses, toothbrushes, and razors.
The good times roll, which is how they get away from us. All the more reason to take captured moments and present them beautifully. It’s tempting, to be sure, to skimp on frames. Like pillows and divorce lawyers, they seem illogically expensive. A really great piece, however, can make a massive difference. This platinum-plated number from L’Objet feels specific and celebratory, but not saccharine, which is good enough reason to stomach the price.
A conversation starter that isn't just a conversation starter. The couple that plays together stays together — not because toys make a difference, but because communication does. By leaning into the strangeness of gifting someone a vibrator (albeit one that allows you to get a buzz on as well), you’re also leaning into a conversation about sex and reaffirming your commitment to keeping the bed alive.
An easy way to class up the joint. By and large, fake flowers are a bad call. No one wants a rayon cloth rose. That said, flowers are very nice and, more specifically, flowers in the bathroom are very nice. These silk hydrangeas look real, go nicely in a simple vase, and can really dress up a toilette. Keep them next to the Poo-Pourri. Better yet, keep them in front of the Poo-Pourri.
Remembering the joys of excess. Over the course of her 27-year tenure as Vogue’s Creative Director, Grace Coddington became cultural standard bearer for a romance on par with Shelley or Degas. Coddington’s art direction favored the sumptuous — and, naturally, the expensive — but story was at the core of her work, which inevitably featured female protagonists caught in flagrante and in love. Under the unfortunate cover of this collection lies the stuff of fantasy, glimpses into what ardor looks like in the absence of logistics.
There's nothing sexier than a perfect night of sleep. This magical balm is infused with vetiveria root, thymus leaf, and bergamot oils to quiet and calm the mind. Does it have any proven clinical merits? No. Does it still relax her enough for her to feel like honey? Yes.
There's nothing more romantic than making memories together. In nature. Away from the kids. Stuff is great. Memories are better. Make some wonderful ones at one of the top-rated retreats in the world. You can book a luxury treehouse. Or a cliffside suite. The retreat is perched 1200 feet above the Pacific Ocean, and if you don't find romance here, you won't find it anywhere.
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